I’d like to take a moment and preface this rant, and my rants in general.
Some people are offended by me, and the things I say. In some respects, good; I have no problem with challenging the way people think. In fact, I take great pride and joy in eliciting such responses.
Having said that, I don’t post the things I post just to be a hard ass, some jerk that is simply trying to offend people for the sake of offending people. I enjoy hearing other points of view, and engaging in open debate. There are even times I will post controversial opinions that I am not sure I agree with yet, simply as a mechanism to garner more information on a given topic to better form my own eventual opinion of the subject matter.
Understanding why we believe the things we believe helps us to better understand ourselves, our own little microcosms, and ultimately our place and potential within the universe we live in.
Today’s rant is about something said by many people I interact with, many I respect and admire for other reasons, and thus it saddens me even more to hear these words spoken:
It is what it is.
To me, that is a statement of weakness, or of shifting responsibility, or of resignation and a broken spirit. Every time I’ve heard that phrase uttered it’s either because:
- People are tired of debating with me, and having run out of logical reasons for their standpoint, revert to this safety as justification for their unproven position.
- People have previously exhausted their own arguments with others over this point, and have resigned themselves to acceptance of the fact that there is nothing more they can do within their sphere of influence to alter the outcome.
Maybe I am a hard ass, because I don’t buy into that mentality.
I am passionate. I am strong willed. I exert my influence as much as possible. It makes my life easier and more efficient when things are done my way. If we’re truthful with ourselves, we all prefer this approach. Our way is what we’re used to, what we’re comfortable with, what we know. That isn’t my reasoning.
I believe in the right way. Like everyone else, I believe my way is the right way until proven otherwise. I’m not always right. Sometimes my way isn’t the right way. Sometimes I’m dead wrong.
I’m not adverse to personal growth. I think it would be incredibly narrow-minded of any of us to believe that we have all the answers on any given topic.
Yet I do have lifetimes of experiences that have forged my approach to things, my strong positions, my passionate defence of my views that some see as “standoffish”.
We all have diverse experiences. It is what makes us who we are, defines where we are going.
So why give up so easy? Why accept what fate throws at us as the fact of the situation? It’s a terrible lesson to teach to others. It demonstrates that we can be molded by the will of another. I am willing to be molded. I am willing to do so by choice.
Teach me. Educate me. Share with me your better experiences that I may grow. There are only two states of being in nature: growing and dying. Stagnation doesn’t exist. Coasting through life doesn’t exist.
I do not wish to die. I wish to grow, each and every moment of each and every day.
That is how you approach me. Communicate effectively. Present your arguments. Speak to me as one also on the path to learning, the journey of self-betterment. Don’t dicate. I won’t be dictated to. Don’t demand. I don’t respond well to demands. Don’t try to force your will on me. My will is stronger. Don’t tell me your opinion unless you’re willing to accept critiques and be presented with the flaws I see in your thinking.
These guidelines apply to me as well, every time I open my mouth.
If you aren’t willing to hear the answer, don’t ask the question.
I’m sure some of you will disagree with this rant, and I welcome the discussion. Just remember, it is what it is.